End of the year update...

Yes it has been a long while since I wrote about the going of my adoption process. So here it goes.

Since February 2015, my babygirl turned 1yrs old.. We went to court for the continuation of the birth mother rights and at that time the unknown birth fathers right was terminated. WELL at that court hearing  I was given custody of babygirl. WELL as we was walking out making plans, the birth mother boyfriend then decides to state that he could be the birth father.... At that time none of us thought much of it but to have a DNA done. 

So it was done and he is the birth father. So at the agency he stated in front of all of us that he did not want to take babygirl as she was in a good home and has a strong attachment to me. Of course I had her since she was 3mths old. Anyhow, at the next visit I left out to change babygirl and when we and my adoption case worker returned he was on the phone talking with a lawyer. Now I'm a very professional person. I felt that he should have waited until AFTER the visit to make calls of that sort and not during the visit. 

A few weeks later my adoption case worker suggested I keep my petition active for custody and backup would be the agency have her as custody so that I wont loose babygirl. Fast forward to our last court hearing about a month or so ago....the birth father and birth mother both stated to the judge that they want babygirl now. Well the courts decided to keep the baby with me and we continue the case either in Jan or Feb. 

Now this is the basics of what I have has occurred with my adoption. It is a known fact that the birth mother is not able to care for herself nor others. However for the now birth father to come out and say he wants babygirl, but has been attending every visit at the agency but waited until the day the court granted me custody makes me nervous, upsetting, etc. I mean words can not express. 

I and the adoption agency and the agency lawyer have the same goal which was the same from the beginning and that is for me to adopt babygirl. I was chosen from the profiles back when babygirl was born. Babygirl was never in the birth mother custody. After birth, babygirl went straight into foster care, then I came into the picture. I was told then that this was an unique adoption situation. And I can say that it is. Do I regret anything.. NO. And I will continue to fight to be a forever family for babygirl. I'm the only one she knows, she is and I am attached to one another. We had per the adoption attorney, conducted an attachment specialist and they also agreed that if babygirl was taken away from me it will be a tremendous lost. Same as everyone states. And the question of why the birth father waited so long to speak up, when he was at every court hearing, visits, etc. 

Anyhow, I have started a GoFundMe campaign, as attorney fees are not cheap. If you are reading this and able to help out in any way, I truly thank you from the bottom of my heart. Even if you are not able to help financial wise, your prayers will help keep us afloat emotionally and mentally. As I stated before, I have claimed babygirl as mines to the Lord and I will fight for her! On that note. Thank you for taking the time to read my update. 

February 2015 update

Hello everyone. I hope all is doing good especially if your on the east coast. 

So my lil one will be a year old soon. The process is ongoing. I found that they pushed back the court date to next month in which I am not sure if they want me to come or not... I have to remain positive though because I'm doing this all for her, point blank. 

We have been having the birth mother visits, which went well the last time.. even though my lil one is now in that attachment phase where she did NOT want anyone else to hold her but me...she boohoooed the entire time until I held her. I and my case worker secretly knew it was because she felt more comfortable and knows me. The birth mother understood for the most part. We just talked about the future, and all. SO it was a good visit. 

I could say that I an anxious for it all to be done with, but as I stated before, everything happens for a reason and this is a blessing..yes the wait is because it just shows and proves that she is growing and in a nurturing environment with me. 
Again for all those in waiting, it IS going to happen, you may never know what 'situation' may pop up with an infant, baby, child, or teen. If your desire is strong and you feel that its YOUR calling, go for it. Lord knows I do NOT regret mines at all. 

As far as funding, I have re-applied for more grants and I am staying hopeful on that aspect. I wish I could do a loan but my credit history does not permit to do so. Anyhow, it will all work out. 

My readers, I thank you for continue support with my process, I truly appreciate it. Until next time, stay positive and motivated in whatever you do! :0)