Well at first I was contemplating to go into the update of the adoption since its a very 'unique' situation. However, I will still share it as I may help someone else or give insight or someone can give me insight, encouragement, etc.
So the court date that was set for December was crazy. They baby lawyer came out to my home and basically stated that its best for the BABY for her to stay with me in a safe environment than with the birth mother, etc etc. After the actual hearing, they extended it to early 2015 just for the lawyers then afterwards, try again with the parental termination rights.
As stated before, the birth parent has brain/mental damage and can not care for self. However, as with anyone one still wants her child... I understand. At the same time, I am on the other end of wanting to adopt. We do get along and she even stated numerous times that she wants our baby with me period. So yeah.. it can be frustrating and stressful. But I had to give it to the Lord and keep doing what I'm doing. My adoption case worker reassured me that there is no need to loose rest over that if push come to shove she will have the court grant me 100% custody and go from there. When she told me that and I saw the genuine sincere-ness and from the lawyer I know that we are in good hands.
Therefore, I truly believe that what we desire that's meant never comes easy. This is a pure example and I am a fighter and determined person. I did not let that damper her Christmas neither.. I probably went overboard but so worth it as its items to help her learn and play at the same time. I am blessed to be able to do so.
As the year coming to a close, I do NOT regret anything. Nothing that I had to endure, pain, happiness, etc is worth regretting. I am happy, babygirl is happy and spoiled rotten. I am looking for a positive new year and I wish everyone reading a awesome, blessed, safe one. And for those still in waiting, it will happen. Hang in there. Even the most odd situation may work for you as it is for me. Never say never! Thanks for reading my blog and stay tuned for more to come! :0)
Monday, December 22, 2014
Saturday, November 15, 2014
Fall 2014 Update
A Happy evening/night to all my readers. My adopting daughter and I are doing great. Totally enjoying watching her grow and interact.
Sooooo where am I at in my adoption process? Waiting for the new court date set for next month to terminate the birth mother rights. I pray and pray that goes per our behalf. The situation is very very sticky due to the nature of her, the birth mother, medical condition and incomprehension skills. So I am totally anxious. I want to say that I want to just get it over with and finalized, but I understand that things we desire does not come easy and I am a fighter. I will fight for my butterfly.
With that said, After the court date, the finalization process will start (yes being and staying positive). That for me will be completed early in the year at the latest if low and behold I have not been granted one of the adoption grants that I have applied for.
I can say the anticipation in it all can run you silly. However, having supportive family and friends in my corner and just having butterfly makes it all worth while.
For anyone who is also waiting for the parental rights to be terminated. I empathize with you.
For anyone who is still in the waiting phase of the adoption, waiting for that phone call. IT WILL HAPPEN WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT! Stay positive, I know its hard.
For anyone starting the process/doing application/starting homestudy. Just remember that you have to open your entire life up, you may feel uncomfortable, but remind yourselves of the reason that made you want to adopt in the first place. YOU WILL GET APPROVED!
For those thinking about adoption. You will receive the sign from the Lord that its your time to go forward with whatever decision you choose.
For those on the outside looking in. Never judge adoption
For those who are supportive of us. I THANK YOU!!!
Well with that said, I will keep you all updated on the process. Thanks for reading :0)
Sooooo where am I at in my adoption process? Waiting for the new court date set for next month to terminate the birth mother rights. I pray and pray that goes per our behalf. The situation is very very sticky due to the nature of her, the birth mother, medical condition and incomprehension skills. So I am totally anxious. I want to say that I want to just get it over with and finalized, but I understand that things we desire does not come easy and I am a fighter. I will fight for my butterfly.
With that said, After the court date, the finalization process will start (yes being and staying positive). That for me will be completed early in the year at the latest if low and behold I have not been granted one of the adoption grants that I have applied for.
I can say the anticipation in it all can run you silly. However, having supportive family and friends in my corner and just having butterfly makes it all worth while.
For anyone who is also waiting for the parental rights to be terminated. I empathize with you.
For anyone who is still in the waiting phase of the adoption, waiting for that phone call. IT WILL HAPPEN WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT! Stay positive, I know its hard.
For anyone starting the process/doing application/starting homestudy. Just remember that you have to open your entire life up, you may feel uncomfortable, but remind yourselves of the reason that made you want to adopt in the first place. YOU WILL GET APPROVED!
For those thinking about adoption. You will receive the sign from the Lord that its your time to go forward with whatever decision you choose.
For those on the outside looking in. Never judge adoption
For those who are supportive of us. I THANK YOU!!!
Well with that said, I will keep you all updated on the process. Thanks for reading :0)
Monday, October 13, 2014
Financing adoption....
For those who are also looking for grants as like myself. Here are a few options:
* Gift of Adoption
* CMOMA
* Tinina Q Cade Foundation
* Help Us Adopt
* National Adoption Foundation
* Show Hope
* Affording Adoption Foundation
* A Child Waits
* Helping Kids Cope
* God's Grace Adoption Ministry
* His Kids Too
* Hope Grafted
* Adoption Grant
Just to name a few, as I have applied to majority on the list. However, unfortunately at this time I was not a chosen candidate for majority that I have applied for. I just applied to 3 more, fingers crossed.
Have that aspect of funding my adoption made me frustrated? Yes it did, I am only human with emotions. But with the grace of the Lord I will NOT give up. He put me here for a reason.
Another avenue that many have tried is the Go Fund Me. I have a page right here > My Go Fund Me Link as I am attempting to raise enough funds for my finalization which will be in December 2014.
For myself, I do not have the credit to successfully obtain a loan at this time. Why you might ask? I have been through a financial turmoil due to having a big heart that some have used and abused therefore sadly my finances had to suffer. I am still working on a budget that works for me. As well as looking for another career path.
I totally understand those who are also going through similar events in their life from bills, medical reasons, being used or theft, playing catch up, lack of income/debt ratio,etc. Things do happen that we may or may not have control over. With that said, I just wanted to share this tidbit.
Remember Google is your friend. Research, research, research. Be careful and make sure the application you are submitting is to a legit foundation/business/organization. Have your references on hand as some adoption grants/loans require about 2 letters, copy of completed home study and your previous year or two tax returns. Also a few want a written statement and pictures to accompany the application and/or a fee. So be ready, be positive and BEST OF LUCK!!!! :0)
***Added: As I find more resources I will just update this particular blog post.
* Gift of Adoption
* CMOMA
* Tinina Q Cade Foundation
* Help Us Adopt
* National Adoption Foundation
* Show Hope
* Affording Adoption Foundation
* A Child Waits
* Helping Kids Cope
* God's Grace Adoption Ministry
* His Kids Too
* Hope Grafted
* Adoption Grant
Just to name a few, as I have applied to majority on the list. However, unfortunately at this time I was not a chosen candidate for majority that I have applied for. I just applied to 3 more, fingers crossed.
Have that aspect of funding my adoption made me frustrated? Yes it did, I am only human with emotions. But with the grace of the Lord I will NOT give up. He put me here for a reason.
Another avenue that many have tried is the Go Fund Me. I have a page right here > My Go Fund Me Link as I am attempting to raise enough funds for my finalization which will be in December 2014.
For myself, I do not have the credit to successfully obtain a loan at this time. Why you might ask? I have been through a financial turmoil due to having a big heart that some have used and abused therefore sadly my finances had to suffer. I am still working on a budget that works for me. As well as looking for another career path.
I totally understand those who are also going through similar events in their life from bills, medical reasons, being used or theft, playing catch up, lack of income/debt ratio,etc. Things do happen that we may or may not have control over. With that said, I just wanted to share this tidbit.
Remember Google is your friend. Research, research, research. Be careful and make sure the application you are submitting is to a legit foundation/business/organization. Have your references on hand as some adoption grants/loans require about 2 letters, copy of completed home study and your previous year or two tax returns. Also a few want a written statement and pictures to accompany the application and/or a fee. So be ready, be positive and BEST OF LUCK!!!! :0)
***Added: As I find more resources I will just update this particular blog post.
Thursday, September 25, 2014
Placement day has arrived
Hey everyone. Awesome news here.......
Soooooo the day came when I received an email from my caseworker. That was on June 6th 2014. She stated that it was an unusal case involving an infant. We set up to meet and discuss it the following week.
At the meeting she discussed that the babygirl was currently in foster care after birth as the mother is unable to care for herself nor anyone else. She was deemed legally and medically unable. My adoption caseworker then showed me pictures, and I can say that even before hand I have already claimed it. I feel in love with this innocent being.
We set up dates to meet with the birth mother as she did choose me from my profile. We meet late June and it was a bit scary as I didn't know if she would black out and go off or what due to her medical issue. Everything went smoothly.
I finally meet babygirl in July, when I first saw her, she smiled at me and grabbed onto my finger as if to tell me I am mama.
Due to the situation, the plan was to visit and spend time to bond with babygirl the week of placement and that beautiful Friday in mid July I would bring her home for good.
July 18th 2014 was that day. I was excited, nervous and ready. I just wanted her all to myself to love. I first took her to my mother home to finally meet. My mom feel in love, then I bought her home, walked her around the house, meet the doggie and her room. She ended up going to sleep after I fed her, so I took her to her crib to nap. Of course I took pics galore of her on my phone.
After placement day, and due to it being an 'open adoption' and legal technicalities, we still have to go to the adoption agency for her to see her birth mother. And each month my caseworker comes out to see her, which is totally fine. However, I am ready for everything to be finalized of course. Which might not happen until early next year.
At this time, my babygirl is 6 months old, healthy, and happy. The parent termination has been reset for the end of the year now. So I have to wait until then and continue meetings with the birth mother one more time this year maybe and caseworker monthly. I pray everything goes well on babygirls well-being, best interest and my behalf.
For all those who are reading my blog. Please keep us in your prayers. And for those who are looking to adopt, if you are ready...go for it. Those in the waiting phase, always remember to remain positive. It WILL happen. I am living proof. I'm a single adopting an infant. I started early last year and look at to where I am now with the process. It will happen, it may take a lot of patience and its all worth it in the end! SMILE :0)
I have always asked myself whats my purpose in life after going through the things I had to endure or whatnot...maybe this is it. To help children in need. To share my love and compassion. Who knows. Anyhow, this is my update and I am as happy as I can be. Happy reading!
Soooooo the day came when I received an email from my caseworker. That was on June 6th 2014. She stated that it was an unusal case involving an infant. We set up to meet and discuss it the following week.
At the meeting she discussed that the babygirl was currently in foster care after birth as the mother is unable to care for herself nor anyone else. She was deemed legally and medically unable. My adoption caseworker then showed me pictures, and I can say that even before hand I have already claimed it. I feel in love with this innocent being.
We set up dates to meet with the birth mother as she did choose me from my profile. We meet late June and it was a bit scary as I didn't know if she would black out and go off or what due to her medical issue. Everything went smoothly.
I finally meet babygirl in July, when I first saw her, she smiled at me and grabbed onto my finger as if to tell me I am mama.
Due to the situation, the plan was to visit and spend time to bond with babygirl the week of placement and that beautiful Friday in mid July I would bring her home for good.
July 18th 2014 was that day. I was excited, nervous and ready. I just wanted her all to myself to love. I first took her to my mother home to finally meet. My mom feel in love, then I bought her home, walked her around the house, meet the doggie and her room. She ended up going to sleep after I fed her, so I took her to her crib to nap. Of course I took pics galore of her on my phone.
After placement day, and due to it being an 'open adoption' and legal technicalities, we still have to go to the adoption agency for her to see her birth mother. And each month my caseworker comes out to see her, which is totally fine. However, I am ready for everything to be finalized of course. Which might not happen until early next year.
At this time, my babygirl is 6 months old, healthy, and happy. The parent termination has been reset for the end of the year now. So I have to wait until then and continue meetings with the birth mother one more time this year maybe and caseworker monthly. I pray everything goes well on babygirls well-being, best interest and my behalf.
For all those who are reading my blog. Please keep us in your prayers. And for those who are looking to adopt, if you are ready...go for it. Those in the waiting phase, always remember to remain positive. It WILL happen. I am living proof. I'm a single adopting an infant. I started early last year and look at to where I am now with the process. It will happen, it may take a lot of patience and its all worth it in the end! SMILE :0)
I have always asked myself whats my purpose in life after going through the things I had to endure or whatnot...maybe this is it. To help children in need. To share my love and compassion. Who knows. Anyhow, this is my update and I am as happy as I can be. Happy reading!
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